The Secret to Understanding Human Behavior
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By Shelley A.W. Roy |
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The success of The Secret, Dan Brown’s The Lost
Symbol and the newly released movie Avatar offer strong evidence
that everywhere and in every way people are realizing that our planet is
composed of interconnected systems of energy and consciousness that
extend far beyond the connections that we imagined in the past. At the
center of this new understanding is the idea that every thought and
everything is a bundle of potential energy, and that thoughts can become
things. Unfortunately, this new understanding does not extend to our
insights into human behavior. Today’s managers, parents and other
authority figures have not yet let go of their archaic cause-and-effect
ways of thinking about human behavior. Thinking like this leads people
to boxing and labeling, diagnosing, treating and quick fixing techniques
for influencing the behavior of others. While managers have developed
the understanding that stimuli such as needs and desires are inside of
us, they have not moved away from stimulus-response thinking. Few have
embraced a different way of understanding human behavior known as
Perceptual Control Theory, PCT for short. PCT is the human behavior
corollary to systems thinking about and understanding of the world
around us.
In the late 1950’s, William T. Powers recognized that our increasing
skill at building mechanical control systems really revealed a deeper
understanding of the ins and outs of human behavior. Control systems
thinkers realized that a person was, in fact, a closed loop negative
feedback system. These thinkers defined behavior as the control of
perception. This revolutionary concept has yet to gain widespread
understanding and acceptance, and it has yet to lead to a change in
thinking about how we manage ourselves and others. Once we
understand human behavior through this different paradigm, we recognize
that punishments, rewards, threats, guilt, praise, shaming, and bullying
are forms of coercion that will not work long term and often create
severe damage along the way to the individuals involved, to the
relationships between or among them, to the organization of which they
are members, and to society as a whole.
Control is a simple process involving action, perception and comparison.
Action results when many internal signals trigger the firing of
neurons that affect muscles and glands. Typing (which is the action I am
taking right now) is created when billions of neurons fire and signal
muscles which create movement in my fingers. The only evidence I have
that this internal signaling and firing is happening is the
perception of letters that form words appearing on the screen. I am
controlling for specific letter combinations to appear on the screen in
front of me. To know if I am accomplishing this result, I am constantly
comparing the letters I see to the letters I desire. I am in a
relationship with my environment at all times. I am attempting to create
the world I want.
The complexity and interconnection of the system reaches beyond ‘me and
the environment;’ it extends to multiple levels inside of me. On one
level I am controlling for specific letter combinations, on a higher
level I am control for grammar, punctuation and spelling, and on a
higher level yet I am controlling for a message. Just as the roots of a
tree interact with the environment in which they are embedded, I
interact with the world around me. Moreover, like the tree whose roots
are in relationship with the wood, the bark, the branches and the
leaves, my system has multiple layers of relationships and
interconnections. What at first seems simple becomes more complex, and
beyond the complexity, there remains one simple answer to the question:
why we do what we do. We do it because at that moment what we want and
what we perceive do not match. Conscious awareness of what we want and
how we perceive the world are essential ingredients in understanding
ourselves and others.
Once we understand and integrate an understanding of PCT into how we
live and interact with others and our environment, we view all living
systems as bundles of potentiality which are constantly involved in the
process of controlling. All we can be to each other is disturbance; a
helping or hindering force in the environment. In your relationships
with others, which do you want to be? To be a helping force, recognize
and seek to understand what the person wants by asking, “What do you
want?” Instead of making all sorts of assumptions about what would help,
simply ask, “How might I help?” Operating with a PCT attitude embraces
the potential within everyone and honors an individual’s ability to
manifest what he or she desire. The secret to understanding human
behavior is to recognize and understand the natural process of control.
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